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The Words and Truths Of The Comeback Kid

Fear is Not a “Why” to live by, it is only a limitation to reaching your dreams.
— Dr. Rob Lancer


YOU NEVER HAVE A CHANCE TO RISE WITHIN IF YOUR FEET FIGHT TO STAY ON THE GROUND

Fear is not a “why.” It is a limitation to reaching your dreams.
Fear is within all of us; it is one of the primary emotions we all experience. Sometimes, fear can work as a prompt or wake up call to take action. It can serve as one of our greatest motivators. However, it can also create a paralyzing feeling when doubt and uncertainty accompany it.


Some people are more inclined to pass on a situation where fear is present. It is most likely due to their upbringing. Now, parents should be honored and held in high esteem. However, many parents don’ t realize that fear; doubt, and uncertainty can be passed down from generation to generation.


Fear is all about perspective. What others view as risky, others see as opportunities. Some people are taught to avoid anxiety and run from it. However, this is not an effective strategy because fear is emotion in our mind, and as you run further and further from it the feeling intensifies. The more you hide from your fears, the greater the power it has over you. Even though Teddy Roosevelt, said, “There is nothing to fear but fear itself,” many have not heeded his advice;  because fear is not a pleasant emotion to think about or act toward resolving.


Some people have more inept fear than others. For some, it is easy to say, “Overcome your fears” because they have never honestly faced the fear of the inner beast that lies in the intense anxiety.


Working in the area of fear, I have made a fascinating observation. A fear that intimidates and frightens one individual does not hold true for the next. Also, people with specific fears have difficulty understanding why another person would fear something they find neutral and not particularly intimidating.


Average fears are one issue. However, the more pressing question is when irrational fears plague a child, teen, or college student. Irrational fears are those fears that have no basis in the realm of reality. To make this problem worse, people with irrational fears have trouble asking people for help because they have trouble understanding and interrupting the fear. If that is not bad, enough, the fears and intrusive thoughts come at random times when there is no premise or basis for the concern.
 

Let’ s review, an irrational fear has no real-world basis, occurs at random times, and cannot be expressed or understood by others. What a predicament this is when intrusive fears become intensified by large doses of anxiety and discomfort. So how does one get help? Well, the specialist is focused in on this area.


Although this is considered an illness of the mind, it is not an accurate reflection of one’s personality. That is why I make a point always to tell my patients that, there must be a crystal clear distinction between the person and the disorder. I believe that people do not have a disorder; instead, they must find a method to “reorder their thinking about their issue.”


The importance lies in people's equating the word “disorder” with meaning a malfunction or dysfunction in a person personality. They make assumptions about people based on uneducated guesses and misinformation. They treat the functioning person as someone who is different and is different than they used to be. However, I realize the strength and mental toughness these mind warriors have to wake up every morning in the face of fear and anxiety and push through the day. Not that their personality has changed; it is that their mindset has shifted due to uncontrollable brain chemistry. Yes, my heroes are the kids, adolescents, and teens who can see through their current struggle and envision a brighter day when they will have overcome their inner obstacles and be stronger for it.


No one likes to think of or learn about the negative in life, but the negative in life leaves clues for success. Only when you have faced your inner fears and stared them down straight in the eye and defeated them will you understand the power of turning a negative into positive.
Who has ever given accolades to the people overcoming inner pain and mental illness? The stigma and misconceptions of the mentally ill stand and continue to live on because it is easier to look away and not educate yourself on what it is until it strikes home.


I am the comeback kid; I do not care if only one person’s life changes due to my words. I am the unsung hero who wants to inspire help those who look at their life as a failure. Being mentally ill is not the end; instead, it is the getting back up the 101st time after you have suffered for the last 3 or 5 or 10 or 20 years. It is never too late to get back up and fight with all the might you have to overcome. I am the Rising Phoenix; I rise above the emotional pain. I challenge any individual to look to their right or left and not find a person who has suffered or been affected by depression or anxiety. However, we never know reveal our true self as we hide behind our inner masks.


We all must rise like the Phoenix and always remember that tough times do not last, tough people do.” Each day that passes the more difficult it becomes to start the process of Rising Within. As you see people around you, see people living their lives with their mask. Emotional pain is incomparable to physical pain. However, emotional pain can be temporary. It might last for a month, a year, or years, but if you quit, emotional pain will be with you forever. How bad do you want to overcome and change your faith? You have no one but yourself. The Phoenix lives within all of us. The comeback kid lives inside of you, and you need to seek it out with all your courage, spirit, energy, and invincibility. Every day and night you move towards facing your fears, – no matter how challenging and painful it may be, you will wake up the next day stronger than before, and the light will shine better on you.
You are the controller of your destiny.

Be The Greatest Version of Yourself- Dr. Rob