Fear & Anxiety
Over the years in my battle over anxiety, fear, and depression, I have learned a lot not only about myself, but also volumes on anxiety and fear. I came to the understanding that in life we all have internal struggles. However, the major key difference is that they occur at varying degrees. Anxiety is one of the eight basic emotions we all feel. At some level, anxiety is an everyday occurrence for us all. The anxious mind causes for shifts in thinking (negative to positive) and knocks the motivation out of people to take chances. A state of mental paralysis can occur transforming the simplest of tasks into the realm of virtually impossible. This book helps readers understand that they are not alone in their suffering and that help is available.
“Before meeting Dr. Lancer, I was unclear of why I was experiencing constant anxiety and getting bizarre and strange thoughts. I am so happy I reached out to Dr. Lancer. He has helped me understand why I get these awful obsessions and habitually spend hours washing my hands.”
-LC, Long Island
“Group therapy with my son has enabled both of us to become more confident as we have learned to face our fears, and reduce our anxiety levels significantly. It was an invaluable, educational experience for us that we will always look back on to summon strength and support.”
-LC, Long Island
“I am extremely fortunate and grateful that my son and I were able to receive excellent therapy with Dr. Robert Lancer.”
-DK, New York
“It was a great pleasure having you speak at our NAMI Queens/Nassau meeting last night. You were an engaging speaker and the audience appreciated the compassion you displayed for those suffering from OCD and their families. Although you made it clear that you don’t have all the answers, you nevertheless gave a good overview of some of the ways in which OCD expresses itself, the toll it takes on the individual with OCD and their family, and came well prepared with a comprehensive handout. We look forward to working with you in the future and thank you for your commitment to our cause.”
-Janet Susin, President Nami Queens/Nassau
“Dr. Rob Lancer has mastered the craft of creating strategies, techniques, and solutions to helping others successfully overcome fear and anxiety. He strongly believes that our future leaders are reachable, teachable, and redeemable. His style and his passion will be sure to reach not only your mind but your heart.”
-Les Brown, World Renowned Inspirational Speaker
“Rarely do I read a book that is so full of pearls of wisdom.... We are all looking for a purpose either consciously or unconsciously. This book serves as a vibrant blueprint for how one finds purpose. There is innovative material here that is not available in other books.”
-Michael Jenike, MD, Harvard Medical School
“During your presentation, I looked out at our packed meeting room. Members and guests were evidently riveted by the clarity and passion of your discussion of OCD and Anxiety Disorders. It does my heart good to see a strong connection between speaker and members. What I remember: your clarity and ability to connect one on one with your audience. Your genuine offers for all present to contact you with questions. Many thanks for your comprehensive 24 page OCD handout. You have an open invitation for a return visit in the future.”
-Sid Miller, NAMI Long Island Regional Council
It is likely that you never had a clear mind to examine anxiety from a perspective other than from the viewpoint of your anxious mind. But it is crucial to acknowledge and accept your anxiety. You may likely discover that anxiety can serve a functional purpose in your life. Anxiety helps people cope and overcome unavoidable negative issues that happen in life.
According to my definition, a person who can live day-to-day in an anxiety-ridden existence and refuse to give in is a true “warrior.” I clarify this distinction in my professional practice when people give me the honor to serve them and help them through the wrath that anxiety and fear burns within them. Yes, I view the people who let me serve them as the ‘true warriors’ in this game of life. These people—people just like you—have taken on the task and commitment to battle an invisible enemy that others cannot see. I dedicate my life to providing my insight and lifelong study to bolster them beyond their day-to-day struggle. I take great pride in seeing people transform their lives from mayhem into one melody.
Anxiety is one of the eight basic emotions we all feel. Anxiety results from stress created from challenges at school, work, home, or even by financial matters. At some level, anxiety is an everyday occurrence for us all.
Don’t ever give into any fame or fortune of others because your actual celebrity lies within.
You are your greatest hero; no matter what anyone says or does it will never change the glory in your heart.
We all have talents and strength within. Therefore, it is vital to always believe in yourself and not rely on the praise of others to spread your wings and be your personal greatest. All of us have gifts.
Principles of exposure and response prevention are useful for obsessive thoughts that are absent of physical rituals. This blog is about the treatment of ‘Morbid Obsessions.’
Always remember to enjoy the positive in life. Unfortunately, when you are feeling down you tend to gravitate to the negative. A person who is down wants to listen to sad music, just as a person in a good mood wants to listen to upbeat tunes. Ironically, what we should listen to and our actions are usually not in sync.
Four components make up the anxious mind. They are Fear, Uncertainty, Doubt, and Anxiety. The first and most important fact to know about these four elements is that they are constantly interacting with each other to create a vicious cycle that the anxious mind generates off of. This means that without doubt and uncertainty, the irrational fears could be conquered. As well, without the presence of anxiety that propels one to be anxious and react in an irrational way to doubt, uncertainty, and fear, there would also be an easier solution to overcoming the anxious mind. This is not to say that everybody doesn’t have fears. In fact, the average person has approximately five fears, of course to different degrees and proportions.
YOU NEVER HAVE A CHANCE TO RISE IF YOUR FEET FIGHT TO STAY ON THE GROUND Fear is not a “why.” It is a limitation to reaching your dreams.
Life is not a dress rehearsal. You will not grow gray and old and be able to relive or correct your mistakes. That’s why it is important to take a personal inventory each and every day of where you are. You need to learn to be your greatest critic.